Wednesday, November 4, 2015

Halloween 2015

Happy Halloween to all of you! I am on a plane returning from a somewhat unexpected trip that I am extremely grateful for. I spent the week with a friend that is dear to me and had the pleasure with a bit of time from a few others from my Halloween past. My Attitude4Gratitude is the opportunity that I was provided to be able to go, from the invitation itself to all of those that helped make it happen. 

My friend hasn't spent an entire day with me since prior to my divorce. Not that we are disconnected, but our lives due to home and work have required us to put our attention elsewhere. By the time we arrived to our destination, I learned something. Her reaction to my day of travel based on emails, texts and calls was that she thought my day was crazy. She was surprised that this was a normal day for me. That was a wake-up. My life is actually alot harder than I portray or even think it to be. The good news is that I was blessed with time to think about that. I was given more than an invitation or opportunity, I was given the gift of time to actually think. 

This reflection time allowed me space to focus on the matters of my heart. I want to share my findings with you in hopes that you can connect with some of my struggles and the solutions I have documented to try. Of course, all will be provided through the tool that I live by, the 4SoC Balance Board (wealth & prosperity, reputation & fame, marriage & relationships, health & rest, children & creativity, wisdom & self-knowledge, career & life mission, plus spirituality & travel, fyi A4G already happened).  

Overall themes: simplicity, calming energy and patience

Wealth & Prosperity
- Here I want to focus on my company and coaching clients, period. They provide for me and I want to provide for them. It's a give and take that should be reciprocated each month. It's a nice check-in. 
- Begin working with my boyfriend or manfriend as a team and be accepting of support whether current or future focused.

Reputation & Fame
- My team has drafted a marketing plan. I received a draft just prior to leaving and will review upon my return. I want to ensure it aligns to my 4SoC Balanced Scorecard Strategy, includes my current volunteer and community obligations, as well as grows a concept to reach more with leadership needs that do not have access to such resources. 
- I also want to keep true to who I am and be courageous and confident enough to show others that I am not near perfect but try hard and learn from my mistakes no matter how grand that they are. (FYI: I made a whopper error this week and did the best I could to make amends. I reminded myself that humility and care is my true north.)

Marriage & Relationships
- I have been divorced about a year and a half now. I thought about that alot. Most of you know that I've been alone for most of my adult life regardless of the box I checked whether single or married. The good news is that I've had enough time to remember how much I love my ex-husband and acknowledge that I probably always will. I may have not married someone perfectly compatible for me, but I did may him for love. The growth during that marriage was essential to my personal and professional development. I have a sense of peace and gratitude knowing that. 
- As for relationships, I have a man-friend. He is a royal pain the rear end. He is controlling and a work-aholic. He volunteers, has a great career and is an amazing father. He is my best friend. Embarking on this is a bit scary but I am evolved enough to understand that I do not need perfection. Perfection is tiring and fraudulent as it doesn't exist. I need love and companionship through honesty, transparency, and support. I need laughter that comes with mishaps and great stories. I need care and consideration when no one but me may know it exists. I need a home that is one for a family. The one where our children want to be now and in the future. I think he wants to be that man, so we will see. I want to give him that chance. 

Health & Rest
- I have been exhausted for months now. I don't do anything but the essentials. On a Saturday night, I work. On a Sunday, I work. It's sad but true. Based on my health history, this is a huge issue. My health allows me to work and provide for my children. I have to be serious that this is not acceptable as a way of life. 
- I wrote a lot during my trip. I wrote in my journal at the cove watching the waves. I wrote in the midst of the rainforest while sitting on a rock watching the waterfall flow. I wrote in the bar at the pool and hotel restaurant during happy hour (that's me being honest). 
- I decided that I need more nature in my world, both green vegetation and water. I will consider that for my home, work and activities. I need more physical activity that is restoration, like swimming, kayaking, hiking and yoga. My pilates is therapeutic but I don't get enough in of the other good stuff. I need to clean eat 100% even during the holidays. This will be my Eat for Your Blood Type focus, gluten-free, vegetarian. I need to go to bed at a decent hour even on the weekends when I don't have 
the boys. I need to use that time to rest more. I need to not skip my healthy appointments that when I do them monthly help my body to heal and feel better. I need to not feel any guilt for the time and dollars of these efforts. 
- The good news is that I have accepted the figure of my 30s. I am curvy. I simply smile at all of the experiences that have taken me here…

Children & Creativity
- My children continue to struggle with the divorce. I am beginning to believe that they will never truly heal from it. That part is difficult. Each tries to get attention differently. There is a new level of distraction that I haven't seen before. It puts my stress to a level that only another parent can possibly understand. I feel helpless on many days despite all of my efforts. The silver lining is that the boys had three adults plus a nanny helping while I was gone and they struggled badly. It was another wake-up call. I'm doing the work of a team, much of it on my own. Remembering my efforts and that being a good mom to the boys is simply a hard job. The great news is that I am one of the most disciplined people you will meet. They are likely to be my life's work. 
- My solution or idea for this struggle is to keep it simple with them. I have a formula that I will begin to use. CMJ = F3 + A2. This stands for: Carli|Marcus|Jaxon = Faith*Family*Friends + Academics*Athletics. The boys can focus on the formula. I can focus on the formula. It will be the strategy for our family team. As for me, I will work on loving them, supporting them, and having the patience everyday to help them execute that formula. 

Wisdom & Self-Knowledge
- I am working on my dissertation now. Coursework is done. I'm in the process of getting my prospectus approved. It's a big step and I'm going to try to get that one done by Thanksgiving. 
- My self-knowledge was this trip..duh!

Career & Life Mission
- I am living my life mission or a slice of it. My career goal is to put together a full values plan by client for 2016 by the end of December. It's no longer an Annual Services Agreement, it's an Annual Value Agreement. I want to elevate the way in which I help my clients. 

Spirituality & Travel
- My spirituality has grown so much through this process. I want to continue this growth and take time for the bible each week over a cup of tea. Continue with worship and youth groups for the boys. Continue to pray with the boys...make it our life. 
- I want to stop my cursing so darn much! 
- I need one trip with the kids and one trip with the man-friend by year end, no matter how far or how long.

Lastly, a big fix for all of this is to reimplement my schedule of timeblocking for my clients. Already drafted on the plane. Check that out!

Hope you can relate to me in some way or grasp a concept to try. 

Love and Peace Always, 

Sunday, September 6, 2015

Labor Day Weekend - September 2015

Long time, no write. Once you read this you will know whyJ

I’ll just cut to the chase and walk through my Balance Board i.e. 9 Life Areas and give you the 411.


I continue to prosper in this area. 2015 was a big investment year as I opened an office in Chandler and have an assistant, Amanda Fletcher. For any entrepreneur, you understand that growth is positive, but it is expensive. These investments have hit my bottom line, but at a minimum adding Amanda, was the right choice to more effectively and caringly serve my clients. It allows me more time with them face-to-face or working on their projects.

On a personally note, I have been house hunting. Who knows if I’ll meet my internal deadline of end of 2015 to move, but we will see. I am still residing in my house that I’ve lived in for twelve years, of which ten included being married. Upon divorce, I promised the boys that we’d stay a minimum of two years for them to acclimate to the changes. I have worked hard to be able to stay here financially for them. For anyone that has gone through a loss, it is very difficult to stay in the same surroundings. I have painted and done some minor aesthetic changes, but there are too many memories here. I need a change. Although I’d like to move to Phoenix and be closer to majority of my clients, the boys come first. Jaxon is portable. He makes friends easy and would have no issues. Marcus is more rigid and needs stability. Therefore, I continue to look in Chandler and Gilbert. My hope is that the new place would have a great working office for Amanda and I as well. Time will tell.

Another success is that my will and trust has been finalized for Carli only purposes. A good feeling for me knowing that the boys will be taken care of.


My reputation is growing. Change brings opportunity and my clients have “opportunities” all over the place. All of my work is received via referrals, so I am meeting that goal. Also, I am a monthly speaker at the TAG, Trusted Advisory Group, meetings. Lastly, I will be a break-out trainer at the AZ Women’s Leadership Forum on 10/15 focusing on Team Leadership. Good stuff there!

Relationships (No MarriageL)

I’m currently seeing someone. They are a workaholic, single dad of twin girls so “seeing” may not be the right word. If you replace dad and twin girls with mom and two boys for the last sentence, you’d be talking about me. I’m guilty but he is definitely guiltier. So we are working on it. If things spice up, I’ll keep you informed.

My health has been going a lot better until about a week ago. It’s football season (which I hate)! We were in the heat last week at the boys’ games for about 5-6 hours. I got heat exhaustion like usual from the fibromyalgia. This put me into a flare up for about a week now. I’m using the Labor Day weekend for a bit of extra rest to be ready for next week.

Outside of the football drama, my health really is in a good place. I am exercising a lot. I do pilates 2-3 times a week, yoga 1-2 times a week, boxing once a week and then the gym as needed. Additionally, I’m still eating 95% clean or for my blood type A+. I have eliminated all medications except for two, one for fibro and one for thyroid. The rest are all natural supplements. My sleep is pretty stable due to the exercise.

On the horizon is the fall…i.e. tennis and hiking. I can’t wait!


The boys are my Beautiful Disasters! Both are struggling with the divorce still. Mr. Roger our counselor is a Christian grandpa that works magic on them. Both are football players. Marcus is now 5’ 10” and 160 pounds plus and Jaxon is 4’ 10” 90 pounds plus. For 13 and 8 those are big boys. They are doing well in school academically. Socially Jaxon talks too much and Marcus is glued to his phone. Overall, they are so loved, I tell myself whatever. I call Jaxon my boyfriend, because he loves me back. I call Marcus my husband as it depends on the day.


Round of applause or smack me upside the head… I have officially completed all of my PhD classes and am in the dissertation phase of the program. Less than a year to go!

Research and Topic for the Book: Impact of Gender on the Mentoring of Female Professional’s Leadership Development

My highlight is that the CEO of YWCA in Phoenix has offered to help me get my participants for the study! She is going to mentor me to get this puppy done. I am so grateful! Also, if you have an organization with lots of professional women, email me at:  I’ll be doing the study this fall or so.

On the personal side, I still work with Robin as my life guru each month plus in yoga practice. She helps me maintain balance and insight into me.


My career goal is to continue with 4SoC, so far, so good. I look at my career in jumps. I have been working on an app to share with everyone with information on 4SoC as well as leadership tips etc. I have a YouTube channel which I will start doing videos. The biggest issue here is simply TIME! I am committed to all though for the long haul.


My spirituality is what keeps me grounded, centered, and positive. It is knowing that God has a plan for me makes everything so much easier. I used to be a 24x7 control freak. It was nuts. I let the small things that I couldn’t control get to me. I was a stress addict.

Now, when something happens, I put it into perspective. First, I remember God’s plan. For instance, if a client cancels, I tell myself that God must want me to have more time for school or to catch up on emails. If I get stuff in traffic, I tell myself that I must need to be on this path versus an earlier one. Next, I practice kindness. When someone frustrates me, I remind myself to do this. I try to remember that each person has a hard journey and theirs isn’t to hurt me. Try it all out!


My A4G is about people. I love my family, friends, clients, colleagues and community. I am smiling just thinking about them all. Just wish I had more time to share with each person in my heart.

Also, please pray with me for my dear friend, Tony Fiori. He is battling cancer. I wish for a positive, painless time for him filled with love. I hope he finds God and the spirituality he needs to feel safe. I treasure the impact he has made on so many. I love that he yells with more love than everyone I’ve ever met.

Closing Thoughts

In celebration of Labor Day, a quote to remind us why the day is a national holiday.

There is no substitute for hard work.” Thomas Edison

In saying that, try to time a bit of time on Labor Day to relax and reflect with those that are close to you.

Until we meet again, Carli Ann McClure (The Change Enthusiast)

Monday, February 23, 2015

February 23rd Week --- Sole Seeking Sanctuary

Welcome to the last week in February 2015. I have a new commitment that I am going to put into place for you; post weekly from a personal perspective. As part of that, I am going to start short videos for you from a business perspective, on a monthly basis.

This beginning of this year has been interesting. I’m in the mode of exploration. How can I create my world to be one of a sanctuary? A sanctuary is spiritual. It is safe. It is thought of as a haven. These are the things that I currently seek.

Here are some ways that I have put that in motion. I will hit the 9 Life Areas, but in an unconventional approach

Time Blocking (Reputation)
I have starting time blocking for my clients. Basically, I set aside my time in blocks, Monday through Friday AM and PM. A client is assigned a time slot or multiple slots pending its size. That is the time that they get with me. For example, my CPA firm I coach gets Wednesday mornings. My investment firm gets Wednesday afternoons. It has been working great and I highly recommend trying it. One word of caution is to give yourself breaks in between clients, commute time, as well as leave one or two blocks open for new projects. Also start your time blocks an hour or so into your day; end it early as well. This allows for short conference calls, errands or email time. This helps keep my stress lower as I know I am keeping my weekly commitments to my clients. Most importantly, it helps me set and keep expectations with clients.

Kids Matter Most (Children)
I have created a world where I simply put my boys first. They know they matter most end of story. My clients understand my deep commitment to them. This has eliminated guilt of being a working mom that I have had for years. I don’t have to yell now, as there is rarely a reason to.  We don’t run late like before as my schedule plans for their activities. I also have stopped sweating the small stuff i.e. messy rooms and laundry piles. Seriously…who cares?

Weekend Warrior Yoga Retreat (Spirituality)
I attended my first yoga retreat. I signed up alone and attended the same. I knew one of the instructors but was basically on my own. The retreat was Friday to Sunday in Sedona at a famous yoga retreat center. It was an intentional community with no alcohol, smoking, drugs etc. For those that know me, the last two don’t matter, but a relaxing weekend without wine??? Additionally only fish and vegetarian meals served. That works for me as well. Most importantly I had a ton of time to hike the property, as well as attend workshops and yoga sessions. I see how closely my body is tied to nature and how often I forget that. Walking is healing. It was quiet, humbling and freeing. I was able to reassess my life and purpose for it. I am not committed to this type of program twice a year. On the down low, I did have two glasses of red wine with dinner on Sunday upon my return. I detoxed but am only humanJ

e-Harmony Hurdles (Relationships)
I joined e-Harmony at the beginning of 2015 at the direction of one of my past executives. He claimed that is the best place for me to meet a man that I would connect with. So although I completely disagree with this unnatural, inorganic approach to love, I took the dive. Now comes the crazy…

I have various messages from men that could potentially be dating material, but the only man that actually wanted to talk to me (still true to this day) is the following:
-       Part African, part Carribean
-       Born in Amsterdam, Raised in Holland (a Dutch-man)
-       Ex-Professional Soccer Player for the LA whoever
-       Underwear Model for Adidas
-       Masters from UCLA for Addiction; super smart and savvy
-       Works in Malibu with Stars and Athletes on Addiction
-       Volunteers as a soccer coach for kids in the community
I am 100% totally serious! What happened to a geeky dentist, attorney or something? I am NOT an LA Barbie Doll. I am a mom, a divorced one at that. Needless to say, I still owe my executive advisor a pic of this guy in his underwear!!!

Men-o-Pause…What the Hell? (Health)
Good news. I turned 38 in December and started in pre-menopause in January. My health i.e. hormones were a mess! From blacking out, dizziness, night sweats to much more, I began the journey to tampon-less freedom and the realization that the 25-35 year olds on e-harmony aren’t gonna want an old lady like this. They will do one thing, Men-o-Pause. Luckily, my childbearing years were over for me prior to this disaster beginning. I’m so sick of being an overachiever…even my body knows I like to do everything first and better. Ridiculous.

Grasping the Nut (Wealth)
I have a few things in motion here. I have added an office and assistant towards the end of last year. We are working on a monthly maximum budget for the business. Additionally, lots of insurance programs in place for the business now; growth requires cash spend to increase. I have a will and trust in process to maximize our family security i.e. Carli dies, cash goes to safety for boys later in life. I am also evaluating whether I should stay in my home or downsize. It’s kind of silly being here. There is lots of wasted space, but the boys love it. So for now it’s a thought. I’d love a small fixer upper in historic Chandler or downtown Phoenix.

A Word to the Wise (Wisdom)
Can you say HATE??? Well my HATE is PHD! I think that the rigor of this program may actually break me. In class 14 of 20, my last statistics course to endure.

New Client (Career)
I am blessed to have added a new client in the first quarter. He’s crazy and fun like the others. He and his team is the perfect fit for 4SoC. Awesome!

Attitude4Gratitude (Grateful Heart Center)
1.     My faith
2.     My children
3.     My family
4.     My health
5.     My career
6.     My perspective on life

The inspiration from my retreat…Namaste. Carli Ann McClure

Sunday, January 4, 2015

2015 Balance Board - "Sanctuary"

“Create my experiences in each life area to be a place of refuge.”

WOOD                                                       FIRE
Wealth & Prosperity

Legacy & Reputation
Love & Marriage
40% increase in prior year revenue
Begin building long-term financial security

Flat fee pricing for clients
Separate bank accounts
Branding as Executive Change Consultant & Coach
New clients from referrals

Personal presence in better alignment with my authentic self
Be open to universe for potential life partner
Healthy relationship

Stay true to my heart and values
Health & Community
Grateful Heart Center (The Balance)
Creativity & Children
Clean eating 80%+
Exercise 3 times a week
Meditation 5 times a week
Therapy, massages & acupuncture monthly
Maximize rest on no activity nights and weekends

Health prioritized as mandatory appointments
Declutter home and office spaces
         Family & Friends

Prayer & meditation station in home
Energy in academics, athletics & activities
Quality time with peers, family and me
Therapy & Church

Keep kid weekends focused on them

Wisdom & Self-Knowledge

Life Mission & Career
Spirituality & Travel
PhD, 13 to 17 & start dissertation
Connect learning to life and clients

PhD coursework more organized

Stay 4SoC path
Daily 15 minutes white space to increase meaning provided to others

Maximize contributions of assistant & consultants
God as center of my home
Summer with family to CA
1 International trip
1 New Place trip
1 Personal Reflection trip

Stay connected with church
Bring spiritual elements to my home
Book 4 weeks of vacation

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